Fleshed Out

This month we explored love and life and philosophy. Since our theme was “Love Stinks..”, we went into some detail about lives that had not had a lot of success with love.

We read from Andrew Shaffer’s ” Great Philosophers Who Failed at Love”.  I have to say, it was a bit unsettling to revisit the stories of the ill-fated in love.  I wonder if failing at love often goes hand in hand with minds going wild….and eventually philosophizing and publishing one’s philosophies. Does pain always have to be part of love?

“It is easy to hate and it is difficult to love.”  That quote got me going in terms of choosing the Rene Descartes profile in this book to read. It’s easy to be negative about anything, but this musing seemed pretty pessimistic to me. I searched further into the book and looked to Fyodor Dostoyevsky for an answer. The quote that represented his chapter read “Love in action is a harsh and dreadful thing compared with love in dreams.” Hmmm….was I getting anywhere?

Our explorations in this February event included a quick gender-bending exercise for me, playing Romeo to Mimi’s Juliet. Yes, the definitive tragedy we all know so well, and I tried out the masculine side.  Shakespeare heightened the masculine and feminine, sort of evened it out and stretched it further, by putting matters completely out of their control. It’s one thing to fail in one’s own mind when it comes to love, but family feuds….? Let me go one step further. Portia, spouse of Brutus in Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar, resorted to a self-inflicted knife wound in the inner thigh to try to get her point (!) across to Brutus that she sensed something terribly wrong. If you know anything about how she finally expressed her agony about his choices you know it gets even more tragic.

So… I know I’m not winning here. The only way out of this is to go up. Once the depths have been seen, in a literary –  and literal – way,  I know the only way to go is up. So shall we purge all our love and loss, and move on. Yes???  Yes!

Thanks for keeping track of it all. I think a full on celebration is in order.


~ by dominiquetrixx on February 20, 2011.

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